The Dharma of Online Dating

The Beatles sang “All You Need is Love.” But we who swim in circles in the wacky waters of online dating beg to differ. Besides love, we also need some wisdom to help us navigate the truths and false stories (about ourselves and others) that come to the surface as we search for authentic connection in this extremely artificial environment.

To help Alicia get ready to meet “Mark” for their first face-to-face date following their initial online courtship, I asked our two Buddhist relationship experts for advice. Yael Shy, author of What Now? Meditation for Your Twenties and Beyond, offers her this advice on the four noble truths of dating.

Published March 27, 2019 in Lion’s Roar

Best of Video Series: Mindfulness for Emerging Adults

Tis the season for connecting with loved ones including our young adults as they head home for the holidays. We thought this would be a great time to share this session with Yael Shy, the founder of the MindfulNYU, who helps bring the practice of mindfulness to those emerging into adulthood.

She shares her story on how she learned to help young adults shift their thinking about traditional mindfulness and meditation to simply learning how to take on the world from a heart-center place. 

Featured on Mindful Leader

Yael Shy- Mindfulness and Navigating Life's Transitions

In this episode - Author, renowned meditation teacher, and Senior Director of the NYU Global and Spiritual Life Center, Yael Shy, and I sat down to discuss:Mindfulness (what it is, and why many people practice), How mindfulness and meditation can support people as they navigate major life transitions (like going to college, starting a career, becoming a parent, etc), Why mindfulness can be considered a form of courage, How meditation can help with challenges and difficulties including strong emotions, and feelings of anxiety.

From Yael’s interview with the Courageous Life podcast

How Mindfulness Helped Me Find Happiness in Myself

PsyCom recently sat down with Yael Shy, author of What Now? Meditation for Your Twenties and Beyondand director of Global Spiritual Life at New York University (NYU) to learn more about how meditation can be used to quell anxiety and access greater joy.

Featured on PsyCom's podcast, accessible here

Bending Towards a Different Light

Unlike feel-good affirmations common in self-help guides, blessings carry a powerful and intimate message anchored in the recognition of the divine nature of being. Meditation teacher Yael Shy writes: “Giving blessings is a very active practice, and a slightly presumptuous one — bringing holiness into space between human beings.”

The call for G-d’s face to rise toward us makes us feel seen and supported, elevating our own faces.

Originally published in Atlanta Jewish Times by Marita Anderson. To read more click here.

MindfulNYU Founder Refuses to Leave the Present

Is there a difference between living and being truly alive? For Yael Shy, senior director of Global Center for Academic and Spiritual Life, the answer lies in meditation.

Shy struggled with crippling anxiety before signing up for a silent retreat that turned her world upside down. After immersing herself in the Zen Buddhist tradition of meditation, she discovered the ways mindfulness could help young people stay present and connected. Shy founded MindfulNYU, the largest campus-wide meditation initiative in the country. Her book, “What Now? Meditation for your Twenties and Beyond,” came out in last November.

Originally published in Washington Square News by Sarah Ellis. Read the full article here.

How to Have a Healthier Relationship with Your Phone

"Yael Shy, a mindfulness meditation teacher and the author of What Now? Meditation for Your Twenties and Beyond, advises: “Before you reach, take a deep breath. How do you feel? What is leading you to reach for the phone? Is it just habit? Loneliness? A desire to escape a particular feeling?” Taking that pause offers a sense of freedom and empowerment, so we can be more intentional about checking our phones when we actually do have something to attend to."

Originally published in Real Simple Magazine by Charlotte Lieberman. Read the entire article here.



The 10 Minutes A Day That Can Change Your Life

Meditation is a healthy form of self-care and both experts and meditation enthusiasts say it’s a valuable antidote to the fast pace of our technology-driven culture

Yael Shy, author of What Now? Meditation for Your Twenties and Beyond (Parallax, 2017), further explains, “Meditation is not just about helping us calm down and “de-stress” although it can do both of those things. Meditation helps us to see the contents of our minds and hearts, to understand the way we construct the world and the pain we carry around with greater clarity, compassion, and acceptance. In this way, meditation has the power to transform our relationship to ourselves, to others, and the world around us.”

Originally published on Psycom by Carolyn Fagan. Read the entire article here.

New York State Of Mindfulness

"On Day One I step into MNDFL, a Greenwich Village meditation studio that offers daily guided sessions; I’m a little on edge as long subway delays on the morning commute set my day slightly off-kilter and my overactive mind is racing with the general to-do lists and nervous chit-chat that I’ve come to recognize as my brain’s status quo. I’m feeling tired and sluggish. (Did I mention this experiment coincided with an attempt to wean myself off a coffee addiction?) But stepping out of the crowded subway and into the beautiful downtown space seems to have an immediate calming effect. The exposed brick walls are painted white and gray. Ceiling-height indoor plants hug the corners and moss accents line the entryway, which feels like a cozy living room. The studio is packed with people milling about, drinking the complimentary tea and lounging on the sofas in the no-phone, no-shoes zone. It’s busy but there’s a palpable softness that seems to fill the room. These people must be regulars, I think.

I’m slightly anxious. I’m at the tail-end of a cold. Will i spend the next 30 minutes unsuccessfully stifling coughs and sneezes? What if I want to leave midway through? We file into the studio and onto the surprisingly comfortable cushions.

The instructor, Yael Shy, leads the class and begins with a body scan..." 

Originally published in the New York Jewish Week by Miriam Groner. Read the entire article here.

Yael Shy on the New Books Network Podcast

In an age which seems to be moving faster and faster, it has become difficult for people, especially young people, to stop and take valuable moments of reflection. Our anxieties can rack our productivity and emotional stability causing us even more trouble than we thought. Even in an time filled with such ease of access to sources of information on self-help and meditation it can be difficult to find a practice that is easy to connect with.

Yael Shy offers meditation as something more than just method and philosophy in her new book What Now? Meditation For Your Twenties and Beyond (Parallax Press, 2017). Never arrogant or prideful in her practice or way, deeply humble about her experience, and filled with passion, Yael Shy has a way to help you understand more deeply the life that you are living.

To my mind, Yael shows people how to take the emotions that are in them and use them as a source of inspiration and power. What Now? takes the insecurities and sufferings of day-to-day life and provides a positive and supportive viewpoint to self-analysis that I think could help anyone.

Listen to the podcast here.

Does Meditation Mean I’m Turning My Back On My Religion?

"Yael inspires me, how candidly she confesses to how it feels to be human: happiness juxtaposed with sadness, and a mix of emotions ranging from anxiety to jealousy and anger. She’s searching for answers, and prodding us to do the same. She shares fears about the complicated and stressful world we live in, collectively searching for coping mechanisms. She finds solace in contemplation, and invites all of us to take a special time for ourselves, focusing on our breath, allowing the thoughts that crowd our brains to rest for a little while. I have been yearning for, and finally found, spiritualism unconnected to a specific shul."

Originally published by Candy Shulman on Read the full story here.

10% Happier with Dan Harris Ep. #119: Yael Shy, Helping College Students Fight Stress and FOMO

Yael Shy, the author of "What Now? Meditation for Your Twenties and Beyond," says she came to meditation from "a lot of suffering" as a student at New York University in 2001 -- the same year the World Trade Center towers fell near her New York City dorm during the 9/11 terrorist attacks. Today, Shy helps college students tackle stress, anger and FOMO (fear of missing out) around academics, relationships, sex and social media in her role as the senior director of NYU Global Spiritual Life and the founder and director of MindfulNYU.

Originally published on January 24, 2018. Listen to the podcast here.

Not Another Anxiety Show Ep 113. Meditation and Anxiety with Yael Shy

Join Kelli and guest Yael Shy as they explore the topic of meditation and how it can help us move through anxiety. Do you get distracted when you meditate? Do you have trouble "clearing your mind" during a medication exercise? Does meditation feel too woo-woo or un-relatable? If yes, you're not alone! Kelli and Yael share how they're not "natural" meditators, and yet mediation has still been incredibly valuable to them. 

Published on January 1, 2018. Listen to the podcast here.

The Newish Jewish Podcast- Ep. 5 Meditation and this Generation with Yael Shy


Yael Shy is the founder and director of Mindful NYU and the senior director at NYU Global Spiritual Life. Growing up Jewish and being a student of Buddhist and Zen practices, Yael has become a bold leader in New York City, touching the lives of students every day from incredibly diverse cultural and religious backgrounds. Her new book is “What Now? Meditation For Your Twenties And Beyond.”

Listen to the podcast here

News You Can Use: How to Achieve Stress Relief Through Meditation

According to a study done by Yael Shy in her new book “What Now? Meditation for Your Twenties and Beyond,” stress has overtaken depression as the number one problem in students. In response to this, colleges are investing in new types of programs directly aimed at this problem.

Shy is actually the founder of MindfulNYU, the largest campus-wide meditation initiative in the country. UNR’s meditation rooms in the PSAC mirror the goals of this program on a smaller scale.

“Data shows that students who meditate experience less stress, greater well-being, and even higher GPA’s than their non-meditating counterparts,” Shy wrote in a press release.

In an interview Shy also spoke to why she believes meditation and mindfulness are so important to college-aged students. “This is usually a period of life when things are in flux and we are still figuring out who we are. Why do we form relationships in the way that we do? Why do we suffer in certain ways? How can we make a difference? Meditation can open up doors to understanding ourselves and give us the wisdom to understand the world at this time in life.”

Originally Published on November 7,  2017 on the Nevada Sagebrush by Emily Fisher.


#NoFilter Interview: Yael Shy, Author and Meditation Teacher

Yael Shy tackles mindfulness and meditation in a refreshing way that makes it accessible to a pretty frazzled demographic: young people living in New York City. I was so thrilled to learn more about her and snag some of her insights on how to start and maintain a meditation practice. And if you’re as into what she has to say as I am, you’ll definitely want to check out her new book: What Now? Meditation for Your Twenties and Beyond.

Originally Published on November 6,  2017 on by Alex Edwards.


The Next Generation of Meditation Teachers

These eight young meditation teachers are so gifted, bringing a unique integrity, open-heartedness and wisdom to their work, that they've already earned a strong following...

Yael Shy:

Why she’s wonderful: Twenty pages into reading an advanced copy of Shy’s new book (see below), I did something that I’ve never done before: I requested to write the foreword. It was an honor to be the opening act to a book this good. Shy is no stranger to high praise: In 2010, the Jewish Week newspaper named her one of the “36 Under 36” change-makers, transforming the Jewish world, largely at NYU where she is the senior director of the NYU Global Spiritual Life Center, and ‘Of Many’ Institute for Multifaith Leadership. She is also the founder and director of MindfulNYU, an award-winning, campus-wide initiative that hosts yoga, meditation, and large-scale events for students, faculty, and staff.

Lineage: She was raised Jewish, but has practiced and studied Zen from a young age.

A book of hers I’d recommend: What Now? Meditation for Your Twenties and Beyond (November 2017)

You would love her if: You want to explore Judaism, Zen, or both; she can speak to all of it in a way that makes these ancient traditions relevant for our modern world. Better yet, to see Yael is to know kindness. She just embodies it in her teaching style.

Originally Published on September 22, 2017 in Sonima